OH Moe!!! If it is any consellation ... I LOVE YOU!!! I know it doesn't mean as much as that girl you secretly have a crush on saying it but I really do mean it.

You know, its funny that you bring this subject up, because there was a time in my life that I wanted my parents to arrange my marriage. Its not even tradition in the Thai culture, but I was just tired of being attracted to the wrong kind of guys. I mean, your parents have your best wishes in mind right? Security, status, and all that other buisness. When we fall in love, a lot of times, we lose sight of those things. I think it really all depends on what you believe in.

Marriage, to me, is a companionship, among other things. It is a relationship you share with someone else based on compromise, trust, loyalty and all that other good stuff. I am not sure what love is. I'm not sure if I will ever know. I mean, I used to have a crush on a different guy everyday of the goddamn week. I hope to find out one day. I know that sharing insignificant moments in life with someone who is just as excited about those insignificant moments is nice. To be a part of someone's day and make them smile even just once is nice. But these are things that could come from both arranged marriages and non-arranaged marriages.

I'm just as stumped as you. Who knows which one will be better? How do we even know we are in love? My old boss in Davis arranged her daughters marriage. But it was cool!! Her daughter had met this guy and she brought him home to meet her parents. The rule was, if he didn't meet all the standards (I'm not sure what that all entails, blood lines ... things of that nature) she couldn't date him anymore. So it was agreed. It turned out that he worked out and they got married. So maybe some sort of compromise will work out for you? I think they were Hindi just in case you wanted to know. If you really want to marry a nice lovely Indian girl you need to start workin the Indian circuit my friend. And if you don't, I recall you having an affinity to Japanese women, go to Japan and meet you some chicks. Japanese girls love American guys ... don't matter what nationality they are. Shoot, my ex-boyfriend had a Japanese girlfriend in Japan and everyone here in the states thought he was gay. Long story. Either way ... if you can't find the girl of your dreams ... and your parents can't find the girl of their dreams I will marry you Moe!!! =)

You are so sweet. haha. I love your commentary, man---if only C. Theraputics knew that you're a partime shrink while at work.

I'll have more thoughts on this stuff as it (slowly) sinks in, but right now it's time for a long, overdue hair cut.

A note to Moe: I have a brother who opted for an arranged marriage, strangely it still seems to be working almost 20 years later. It's not our culture, he joined a crazy ass religion around the age of thirty. [We're descended from swedes & germans and are lapsed catholics.] Now my brother is a tall drink of water who dated/slept his way through a wide swath of young beauteous things on two continents [100 - 200?] and sex was always important to him before, I can't imagine it changing even today. They have two kids and share one tiny ass bed. The fact that she's a smallish japanese gal who still has a hard time with english--well it cuts down on the arguments when you don't share a language. Both of them are in the same health as when they married, he's definitely still gettin' it . I can't recommend it but I've seen it for myself.

Well, firstly I don't know what to say.. for me personally... I've given up on the word love and everything else. It's not that I don't like it its just that its hard to find someone that you can really turst and be incompanion with them. Although there's like so many people in this world, how do you know that they're the 'one' as most people refer to. I have nothing against 'arranged marriage' but I sometimes feel that it would be better to choose who you want to be with although the word 'divorce' would happen to slip in mind. But it's sometimes hard to get into an arranged marriage when you feel that you don't know that 'someone' that well and what if you don't get along? Then what!? Totally agree with you faisal... It's hard to decide because there's both an advantage and disadvantage. Although I'm asian but I'm in Canada. Guess I'm still young and still got plenty of time to decide, but the point is its your decision. Either one you choose, I'll support you all the way. Lust comes so often, its like you see someone out there and you feel that you're in 'love' but to me... there's no true definition of love no more. (most guys are bastards, but I'm sure your not one) =] Lost faith and hopes. But I think I would still choose the western way of marriage, I rather be in more deep than having a stranger and being shallow for awhile. But if Incompatible strikes, I can't say that I didn't warn myself in what I'm getting myself into.

I don't believe in romantic love, and I never did, it never made sense to me. So the core question "Which is love is better?" is nonsensical, like "Which Santa Claus is fatter?"

I guess I could imagine marriage being useful, if you look at it old-school as an economic property contract. Mixing love up with that old-school propery notion causes a lot of confusion and frustration.

The biggest problem I see with arranged marriages is for the people that don't want to be married at all. Or homosexuals or something like that. A culture of arranged marriages (regardless of how many work) have the side-effect of wrecking all those people's lives forever.

Dear All,

I Am Aamir Khan I Am Single But Looking, I Need A GIrl For Marraige. And I Live My Wole Life With Here. ANd I Gave Here My Love And Trust. But THere Is No Girl So Plz Contect TO Me A Best Girl in The WOrld. i Am Waiting For U My Love.

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Aamir Khakwani.